This week I was bombarded in all directions with the concept and common phrase TRUST THE PROCESS.
We’ve all most likely heard it before to ensure that everything happens for a reason or to remember we are on our own path. Sometimes I find it annoying to hear because it’s very saturated in my industry. Funny enough, it came in every possible way to remind me, but not in that exact phrase. I love how the universe always knows my process for me to actually get it.
I had previously worked through some major shifts in my personal life and feelings the week before, leading me to feel very empowered, unstoppable, successful and on point this past week. This was my reminder that only when we fully feel what is real for us can we actually move through to our amazing potential. It was my reminder that my process was perfect. In the heat of the moment, I couldn’t see any point to the depressive thoughts or apathetic behavior. I couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel through the tears. And now, in hindsight, I see the very real process that was perfect for me. And every time, it gets easier and easier, as long as I continue to trust myself and divine timing more and more. It get’s easier because my awareness opens up and that’s what helps me skill up to create my life in a more powerful way in the future. (more on that at the end)
Trust requires us to have faith without knowing the future or seeing something with our eyes. With trust, we feel grounded and intuitively know that the outcome will be perfect for us, even if it is something we didn’t expect or want. When we trust the process, it's because we trust ourselves. We know we are capable to handle anything.
Additionally, our own process will look much different than another person’s process. We are all at different levels of consciousness, energy and vibrations along with such vast differences in experience. Our process is unique to us.
What I find most often, which was the case with me again, is that we judge our process instead of trusting it. We think we know better, that we shouldn’t be experiencing this right now, that it should be different or better for us, or even get into that negative victim mentality, the whole ‘woe is me’ vibe.
Who are we to second guess divine timing? Would I take back anything that I have ever done or gone through? No. Hasn’t everything I have experienced, good or bad, made me who I am today? Yes. Did I learn something from everything I have experienced? You bet!
It’s funny that we do this, then, huh?
To help you with trusting the process more, I want to share the actual process of mastering awareness, in order to see where you are at with your process, to gain a better perspective on what you might be frustrated with and find solace in how you can skill up, yourself.
Here's the process of awareness:
Phase 1: Unconscious
First, we are living in an unconscious state of confusion. We are not aware of something that we need or the lesson we are moving through. We think things like “why is this happening to me?” “I hate my life” “I don’t know what to do” or “how come I can never make it work?”
We will remain in this phase until we actively seek solutions as to what may be happening.
Phase 2: Hindsight
Once we gain awareness, we notice something in hindsight. “OH, that’s why this happened” or “Damn, I really see what went wrong there” or “well, that’s why I was feeling this way” or “that situation helped me learn this”.
This is when we actually gain evidence that awareness is always the key, and we learn to look for it more, opening up our general awareness moving forward and using it as a tool for growth.
Phase 3: In the moment
When we look for something more, our awareness sharpens and eventually we will be able to see it smack in the moment when it’s happening. We are able to understand the situation with wise eyes and a neutral feeling. “I am feeling like this right now because of ____”, “we are doing that thing again”, “I see that I am in a state of ___, like last time”.
Basically, we are observing our own life.
Phase 4: Predicting
Finally, once we master being able to observe ourselves in the moment, we get good enough to be able to predict when certain situations/feelings/confrontation might happen so we can choose to either avoid them or show up to them in a more powerful, authentic way. This is the beginning of co-creation and cultivating the life we really want.
Cheers to trusting the process,
What was your last frustration or time that you felt really down? (it could be today!) Notice which part of this process you are in and SHARE in the comments below! When you share, you help others to have permission to be themselves more. You help others to feel less alone and have more courage to acknowledge where they are at as well.