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How willing are you that everything goes right/works out?
Are you contributing to your happiness or your suffering in your everyday life?
How many blessings can you actually handle?
What does it mean to be in alignment and flow?
These are the things I ponder and ask myself all the time. As my mentor Jeannine Yoder always says, to achieve great success you have to ask yourself more powerful questions.
Some days are quite normal with the usual work, to do’s or interactions. The status quo. The comfort zone. The expected.
Some days are bursting at the seams with magic and synchronicities infused in every moment.
These days don’t just happen. They happen when we are aligned and in flow. What does that mean? They happen when we are awake. And by awake, I mean aware, conscious, open, relaxed, mentally alert in a calm way that only comes from our experience in moving through the fire (read: challenges). These kinds of days find us when they know we can cherish them. It’s like giving a homeless man a nice set of dishes… he can’t enjoy them nor would he want to. It’s not in his capability to use or like them, it’s not appropriate. The universe uses this concept, too.
The great spirits, the gods, goddesses, guides, angels, our ancestors that are all watching over us and running the show “behind the scenes” as I like to say, know what we need and when.
They know when we really commit to something by our consistent actions.
They know what we believe by what we think.
They know what we’re capable of by how we treat others.
They know our capacity to love by how we treat ourselves.
They are standing by to give us WHATEVER we ask for through these ways, the good and the bad. That’s how we communicate with them, even if we think we aren’t. Therefore, they know when we need that extra boost, that one sentence that gets us through the day, the spark of inspiration or another example of how we are free. They give us only what we can handle. And, honey, when you increase your capacity for life, brace yourself for incredible happiness!
I remember when I was in my early 20’s (which sounds incredibly weird to say as I still feel like I’m 21) I was partying it up with toxic relationships, endless drama, jaded interactions and workaholism. I came LAST on the list, for sure. Everything stayed the same for so long, even though I am an inherently positive person. I was still blind to my purpose and cultivating a destructive reality without realizing it. “Why was there always so much drama?” I was an excellent complainer. I was the first to talk shit. I would choose snobby entitlement and then disconnect for appearance’s sake. My reputation was both totally unimportant so I could “do what I wanted” and highly elusive so I wouldn’t have to be vulnerable. I did have some great friends who I’m still friends with (gotta love those who you make it to the other side with you, amiright?) and I also had a lot of “best friends” that simply just mirrored my state of mind at the time who quickly vanished at the point of any truth clarification or change of behavior. I was always worried for myself, that something wasn’t right or someone was out to get me. I was always tired, broke, careless, dumb and reckless with an expectation hangover (and a real hangover). I was always wondering “when will it be my turn?” or “why can’t I have the life that some people have?” or even “why don’t they like me more/why am I not important to them as they are to me?”. Yea, #realtalk.
Now, I have to stop myself from saying “I can’t believe this is happening to me” (but in a positive way, like I almost don’t believe I deserve something so wonderful) or “I can’t believe I have this.” Those words are not serving my future or my confidence, so I have to remind myself to change my language to support more of the experiences that I am calling in. The point is, that with all my efforts, I am rewarded greatly, as are all my fellow sisters on this path. The in-your-face-wildest-dreams-blessings are never-ending instead of non-existent. I now have to learn to cherish things even more. My capacity for happiness, love, luxury, spaciousness, pleasure is increasing. You would think this is an easy feat! I beg to differ…
We are all trained to be and act a certain way or to believe something limited, which holds us back. This is what’s so hard to shift. These are things like complaining, fighting, rudeness, inconsideration, gossip, settling, holding back, small-town-syndrome or giving up. But it’s important to remember that what we learned is not real, and this is part of what I’m explaining today. What we learned to do or be is not the magic. The magic is in how we move away from those things.
Magic is what blessings are, it is what brings our dreams to life. Magic can be achieving that long-time goal, or changing that behavior/habit. Magic can also be the sweet synchronicities that surprise and delight us unexpectedly. The little things that add up and change your whole perspective. The acts of kindness or the instant manifestation or even feeling deeply loved. Recognizing more beauty in nature, feeling your senses heighten, receiving gifts, things working out, getting respect, feeling heard, knowing you are making a difference in someone else’s life. REVEL IN THIS MAGIC, MY DARLING.
Our magic is not in the status quo, the comfort zone or the expected. Our magic is what happens when we open up and allow our full expression to emerge. Our magic is our unique zone of genius, our authentic brilliance as my friend calls it, our greatness. Magic flocks to those in their greatness.
I show up differently than back then. I ask for more from myself and others and I give more because I’m full more of the time. The quality of my work and my being has upleveled, and nowI am being shown the responsibilities of that new level. Mainly, to enjoy more. That is what I am being guided towards when I asked the questions from the beginning. That’s how I got to this place. By believing the magic is real and noticing it everywhere. By breathing through those silly questions of if I deserve it or not. By expressing myself and following the lead of my intuition. But most of all, by taking care of myself.
Can you imagine literally EVERYTHING going right or exceeding your expectations?
Here are some small examples...
hearing ALL of your favorite songs on the radio
people moving out of the way for you on the road…
being handed a flower because your beautiful by a stranger…
thinking about something you want and it appearing right before your eyes for FREE….
receiving discount after discount or free items when you shop…
more efficient time management that didn’t have to be managed, but just happened by the flow of the day….
being taken to a random restaurant and eating one of the best meals of your life….
being bought a free meal at said restaurant…
money being LOOSE in the budget….
finding money or something you’ve been searching for forever….
winning free things that will make your life easier…
being asked to be on an important panel because of your expertise….
being the receiver of a random act of kindness…
giving an act of kindness with a smile and bright joy….
feeling so relaxed and connected to your loved ones like you never have before…
being supported by your mentors…
I mean, I could really go on and on….
But do you see what I mean? How much of that could you handle in ONE day? Could you really receive so much blessing? I have found that It’s easier to block blessings than to receive them, so that is why I am writing you today.
All of that happened to my friend and I the other day. It happened because I can see how much I’ve been taking care of myself more than ever. Hindsight is a powerful tool. Everything feels right and aligned, and I know it’s not just because, it’s not just a “good day”. This feeling and alignment comes from MY actions, my commitments of daily ritual, daily connection and daily focus. I am DOING a lot, but most of it is BECAUSE of my new being. It is because I am able to care for myself in a deeper way and therefore open up the pathways in my body to experience bigger things.
This is similar to the concept of “the rich get richer and poor get poorer”. The energy that we focus on is what we experience. I used to focus on drama, partying, pleasing others or twisted affection. I got what I focused on. Life never seemed to get better, it just got different in the same way. My now husband and his family was a life saver, I’ll tell ya! Once I met him, though he wasn’t really into anything I’m saying here today, but was just a damn good man in the making, who made me show up better for myself and the world. The rest is history.
Now, as I mentioned, I am constantly surrounded by blessings of wild caliber. I am living my dream life by my own standards. I am hearing myself say “my dream came true” every two months, as cheesy as it sounds. Greatness is a non-negotiable for me now. There is no going back to mediocracy. Everyone I am around upholds this for me, because I called them in my life for that reason. The magic just keeps getting bigger. This is all possible for you, too, and it’s part of MY dream that it comes true for you as well.
DISCLAIMER: This is not without the hard days. We don’t have to be on all the time. There will be sleepless nights or bad decisions or burn out every now and then. The good days happen to me more because of how I move myself OUT of these dark places.
What I know is that success is our birthright. I know we as women need to choose ourselves more to experience what we want. I know that every time we sacrifice ourselves with a win/lose situation or putting others first that our experience shortly after will be devastating. When we say YES to ourselves by putting ourselves first, expressing ourselves unapologetically and enjoying the moments more, we find happiness, which will usually come in a different way you are expecting. That’s the angels, you see. They know better in the other realm. There’s more magic than our human brains can comprehend. RECEIVE IT, dear one. It’s really there.
Notice the signs.
Notice how you show up.
Change your approach.
Open up your perspective.
Increase your awareness of the moment.
Soften and receive.
I promise you it’s worth it.
What magic do you see right now? It’s waiting for you to experience it- that’s why it exists!
Cheers to the magic within you
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